What an Empowered Woman is All About?

This week, the topic of Indispire is what an empowered woman is all about? If you ask me in one word, the answer would be SLUT.

Maniparna Sengupta Majumder, in the comment to my post What is Wrong in Being a Slut, wrote: “A woman getting promotion for two consecutive years; she must be a slut according to her colleagues. A girl spends time with her HOD for academic purposes and then secures excellent marks; she is also a slut to the not-so-good students. Boys fail to get attention from a certain girl; as a counter to their insult, they mark her slut….the list just goes on.”

It clearly shows that excellence of women in any field is acknowledged by the word slut. All female celebrities irrespective of their field whether in cinema or sports or politics are referred as slut on some points of their life. Even queens were called sluts; for example, Cleopatra, Draupadi, etc. Goddesses are also not spared. Durga, who is revered as Goddess of Power, is also called slut by some. The issue was raised by Smriti Irani in the parliament.
 
As it appears, women empowerment and slut-shaming are the two sides of the same coin. I started the series what’s wrong in being a slut with the intention to change the perception of the word slut, and I’m happy that it’s reflecting in the responses I’m getting.

Sangeeta Mishra said in a tweet regarding my post What is Wrong in Being Slut – Part 2:

To yield greater effect, I’d like you to do some active mental exercise side by side the passive reading of the series. I’m launching a writing contest by the name Slutylish Think Different Contest, in which you will have to weave a story using the word slut in a positive way. The story needs not to be about slut. You could use the word slut in any context. The only condition is that it has to be positive and inspiring.

The story that will please the jury the most will be given Prize Money of Rs. 500 and the author will be honored by Best Creative Writer Award. There’s prize for commenting also. One commentator will get Prize Money of Rs. 50 along with Best Critic Award. For details, visit: slutylish.com.    

If we attach a positive meaning to the word slut, we could save many young minds from being traumatic.   

Ravish Mani is a motivational writer, who believes that men need feminism too, as it is about equal rights and opportunities for both men and women equally.

14 thoughts on “What an Empowered Woman is All About?

  1. That was interesting, Ravish. I have read all your posts and just did not know what to comment. I know that slut is used as an offensive word often to demean and insult. I doubt if it will ever have any positive connotation.

    1. Rachna, thanks for reading. No problem. I know that we hold diametrically opposite views on some issues, including this one.

      I agree with your statement regarding the use of the word slut except with the ‘often’ part. The intention behind writing the series is to make people understand that it isn’t ‘often’ but ‘seldom.’ Most of the time, the word slut is used for other purposes.

      Well, doubt is a good start as it shows that there’s a still chance to change. 🙂

  2. This is such a wonderful initiative, Ravish. I missed your wonderful posts as I was not online last month. I would definitely try to weave a story using the word slut in a positive way 🙂

  3. To me an empowered woman is the one who gets recognition and respect simultaneously. But I’ve never seen any such woman in my life. I know about a Maharashtrian lady, who migrated to my home town about 85-90 years back and started the first girls’ school of the town.Since the people then did not intend to send their daughters to school, she used to visit door-to-door to convince people to educate their daughters. People used to call her by various names and ‘Slut’ was one of them.
    Because of her wearing ‘nauvari saree’, some of them even convicted her of being a man impersonating a woman (wearing a dhoti). Just to convince that foolhardy crowd, she started to feed her infant in public.
    That so called ‘Slut’ was the founder that first ever girls’ school which eventually turned out to be one of the best schools of that time. It happens to be my school too.
    But not every woman is as brave as her.
    The scenario has not changed even today. Recognition and respect can’t exist together when it comes to a woman. But it’s really difficult to stay unaffected and indifferent when you are called by abusive adjectives or such proper nouns.
    I’m following this series very religiously because such words hurt me a lot, even if they are not uttered for me or anyone related to me. Through this series I’m trying to learn “How to stay unaffected and indifferent with abusive language”, ( P.S. this could be a good SEO friendly title for your blog post 🙂 )
    It’s really difficult for me to write for such an audacious subject. I mean, how can one use ‘slut’ in a positive manner? Even you haven’t done that- that’s my observation after reading this series quite keenly.
    Kudos for raising such a debatable issue Ravish. The whole series proves to be a piece of great work. Indeed !

    1. As I see, it’s nothing to do with gender. You said that recognition and respect couldn’t exist together when it came to a woman. Well, same is the case with a man too. Gandhi was shot dead; Socrates was poisoned; Jesus, the Son of God, was crucified; and even the God Vishnu didn’t get respect from everyone. Asuras hated him and always used derogatory word for him.

      I ain’t saying that it’s easy. Attaining inner-peace is not an easy task. In fact, nothing is easy. At present, you and I both walk freely on our two feet but there was a time when we couldn’t even able to stand on our feet. It’s said that it’s the most difficult task for a human being to stand erect against gravity but we did that; didn’t we?

      Sangeeta Ji, I beg to differ from your observation regarding not showing the positive side of the word slut in the series. In Part 1, I presented slut as a potentiality for the ultimate state of consciousness; in Part 2, I highlighted slut as a creative, multitalented, powerful, self-dependent, trustworthy, well-mannered, patriotic person; and in present post also though it isn’t the part of the series, I used the word slut as a synonym for an empowered woman. In my humble opinion, all of these are positive use of the word slut.

      I understand that it takes time to replace a belief which has been deeply rooted in the mindset of society for generations. I sincerely appreciate your honest effort towards looking the issue from a diametrically opposite perspective. It’s indeed an act of courage. I hope the things will become more clear in Part 3.

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